When a loved one passes, family members typically write the obituary—a task usually filled with warmth and tribute. Most aim to remember the deceased respectfully, but not all families create a flattering piece.

Some choose unflinching honesty, as was the case with Kathleen Dehmlow’s obituary, written by her adult children. Published by The Redwood Falls Gazette, it began like any other but soon hinted at deep family discord.

The last line was particularly shocking, and its unexpected candor sparked both curiosity and backlash. The reaction led the paper to remove it from circulation, though by then the obituary had already gone viral.

A family member named Dwight later confirmed its contents, sharing his own perspective. He noted that Kathleen had made a mistake six decades earlier, for which she had shown remorse, emphasizing that everyone has regrets.

However, the obituary’s authors felt unresolved anger, hoping their words would make a lasting impact. Their decision to include painful details reflected long-standing family wounds that remained unhealed.

The Gazette’s CEO addressed the controversy, explaining that while they ensure high standards, there’s no legal restriction on an obituary’s tone. Following complaints, they reviewed Kathleen’s obituary, drawing even more public interest.

The incident highlights how obituaries can sometimes reveal complicated family dynamics rather than offering simple tributes. What began as a local notice became a viral reminder that grief and honesty can take unexpected forms.